Listening in ministry appears to be passive, some pastors do not perceive the act of listening as "doing" for another person. Sometimes this is a major problem for pastors because they need to understand that this is a great ministry. Some think they must be heard all the time and feel they don't have to listen. 

When the people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing and fighting for the relationship, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in. Disengagement triggers shame and our greatest fears, the fears of being abandoned, unworthy, and unlovable. What can make this covert betrayal so much more dangerous than something like a lie or an affair is that we can’t point to the source of our pain - there’s no event, no obvious evidence of brokenness. It can feel crazy-making.

Justice: What's The Right Thing To Do? Episode 06: "MIND YOUR MOTIVE"

My brothers today we face a new challenge, how to gracefully transition from a gender-polarized society, to one that has women and men, girls and boys sharing and exchanging roles in unprecedented ways. In particular, many guys struggle to define their masculinity and themselves as men in a culture that increasingly stigmatizes things like sexuality, aggressiveness, and competitiveness